Adjustment to My Resolutions!!

Yesterday a friend and also now my life coach gave me some advice regarding my resolution; "In 2011 I will not fall in love". I made this resolution because of the hurt I had under gone this past year in the love department...

She suggested that I not make this resolution, because closing it off like that makes me obsess about it. And then if I do find something good, I'll say no because I had made this resolution... And in the end it will only cause myself, a heartbreak again!!

So instead my resolution will become; "I will only give my heart to someone who is worthy!"

This was just a quick post to change my resolutions before the New Year...

To All My Readers,

May 2011 be a Year filled with Love, Joy, Success and Blessings...

XoXo

Sunshine after the Rain!

Many people use the saying; "There is always Sunshine after the Rain."

That quote is very true... No matter how many hard times you have to survive, there will aways be something positive in the end!! We might not see it in the beginning, but the end is always worth the pain and suffering...

In my life I have had to pass through many storms, but today I can finally see the rainbow... And it is absolutly gorgeous!!

So my dear readers, please never give up... I never did, and never will!! Life is far to exciting to just fall down, and not get up again!! So no matter how hard I fall, I will rise again...

And too ALL MY FRIENDS & FAMILY...

XoXo

CupCakes & Cosmo's!

I had a really depressing day yesterday... And so did my boss!! Seems we are going through that stage in life, where things need to be brought to a point...

I asked him, what was wrong last night and he said that he was wondering what 2011 was going to hold.?! Then he had me wondering too...

2010 was not a great year for me, but it wasn't bad either!! I really need to stop focusing on the bad, and start seeing the good!!

List of BAD in 2010:

I lost the one I loved...

List of GOOD in 2011:

I found 2 awesome men, who love me and my son. ( Wimpie & Rudi )
I got a great job.
I was accepted for who I am.
I found a friend. ( The Unicorn )
I discovered who I really am.

So see, there was more good in 2010 than what I thought!! And now I'm more positive about 2011...

The Unicorn assured me that it would be, so Wimpie stop worrying about 2011 or The Unicorn and I will stuff CupCakes and Cosmo's down your throat and pretend it better... ( This is The Unicorn's plan to do to me! ) So we'll have to do it to you now...

XoXo

2010.

All my dear friends, 2010 is slowly drawing to the end...

For many people, 2010 was a year filled with joy. But also for many a year of sorrow... But no matter what 2010 gave to us, it was a year of learning!! 2010, will soon only be a memory... A blast in the past!!

I want to thank all my friends and family, that helped me through 2010... Who stood by me, loved me!!

I hope 2011 holds only the best for ALL...

XoXo

Not Domesticated!!

Either I am really a undercover blonde or I am just really freaken dumb...

I don't think I have laughed so hard at myself in a long time like last night!! I have previously mentioned, that I'm not really a domestic woman... And last night I had proved that to myself and the rest of the family!!

While I have been at work the past few days, Wimpie and Rudi have been working extremely hard in our new home!! I think the move is starting to take its toll on them... They have been very productive these past few days, Wimpie doing all the Handy-Man stuff and Rudi the decorating!!

But back to my dumbness of last night... I helped the two gentlemen to hang up the portraits and mirror's against the lounge wall!! My responsibility was to vacuum where Wimpie was drilling... Not a huge job at all!! That's what I thought atleast...

The process was to follow like this: Wimpie would place a marking on the wall and drill the hole there, I was to hold the vacuum pipe under the drill bit and vacuum up the dust!! Easy... Nothing complicated!!

As I'm standing there, concentrating on not messing on the carpet... Waiting for Wimpie to drill, instead he's staring at me like I'm a retard, which in that case I was!!

Wimpie looks at me and says; " Donna, you have to switch the vacuum on, if you want to vacuum the dust!!! "

I felt like a complete @ss... We all started laughing, my stomach starting hurting... I couldn't believe how stupid I had been... I don't think they will ever let me forget my blonde moment...

So you see, I am not at all a domestic lady!! I asked Wimpie to teach me how to drill a hole... His reply was, I had to first master the art of working a vacuum cleaner!!

Hope this post atleast brought a smile to your face... Because I'm giggling just thinking of it!!

XoXo

Quotes!

I found a few quotes, that made some sense to my life in a few ways...

Whoever is happy will make others happy too...

This is so true... I cannot describe the joy I feel in my heart, when I hear my son's laugh!! All I want in life is for him to be happy..!! God's greatest Gift to me!!

Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burnt...

Anger is such a harsh thing... I used bottle up all the anger I had for people, and one day it just became too much!! I let go... And it was the biggest relief ever.!! I became content with life, and accepted all the wrong and rights in my life!!

Always be a first-rate version of yourself, instead of a second-rate version of somebody else...

Growing up in a small town, I saw this a lot... So many girls copying each other, trying to be like one another!! Instead they only made fools of themselves... I was never popular at school, I was known as ther poor kid in primary school and in high school I was known as the sl*t... However, it never got me down... Look where I am today!! I don't need to be like somebody else... I <3 me!!

Only I can change my life. No one can do it for me...

Ditto... Life is what you make of it!! If you want to be happy, make the choice and be freaken happy!! Life is a gift, not a burden!!

People say that you're going the wrong way, when it is simply the way of your own...

The road of life we choose to walk, is ours... Nobody can walk it for us! Make the walk worthwhile!!

Those are only a few quotes that made me think twice about how to carry myself today!!

XoXo

The Move.!

As I previously mentioned in my blog, we are moving... On Sunday we recieved the keys of the house, and decided to do the move yesterday!!

Or not we... Wimpie, Rudi and Tiaan. I had to work!! I felt really bad about that, but duty called!
So last night when I got to the new house, they had done a lot... Renovations, painting and cleaning... The house looks great!!

Since we had not started unpacking yet, we had to buy junk food for supper... Hey, nothing wrong with Cheese Burgers and Chips.!! Oh, and don't forget the Bubbly and Wine...

After we had a quick supper, we started unpacking and moving the furniture... What a mission?! But after a few minutes, the house looked like a home!! Rudi was super excited about the unpacking, he said he found things that he had forgot about... But My Word, they have so many ornaments... I have been living with them for 6 months and I have never seen the half of it...

Just past 12AM, Wimpie and I decided, our bed's were calling... So I slept in my new room last night... And it was Great!! I didn't even want to wake up this morning... Wimpie was knocking down my door at 7am!! I was not a happy CupCake, but yes duty was calling again!!

While we were sleeping Rudi had did some more unpacking... I was shocked when I entered the kitchen!! At least he made sure I could have coffee this morning!! So today, they are doing the last pick up's of the rest of the stuff.!!

I think we all, mostly Wimpie and Rudi are exhausted... But we will be having Christmas Lunch in our New Home!!

XoXo

New Year!!

Most of Us, have New Year Resolutions... Fine not most, but some do!! And Yes, I am one of those some!!

My life has changed a lot over the past 6 months... But there is still room for more changes!! I like changes, they help me discover the person I want to be!!
But I also love the new stability I have in my life now... Stability has never been a strong point in my life... I moved around a lot with my parents, never stayed in a town for longer than 5 years, nor a school!!

But now I have found my place... My family and My home!!

But let me get back to my New Year Resolutions... I don't have a lot, I only have 5... So here they are:

1. I WILL NOT FALL IN LOVE IN THE YEAR 2011!
Yes, you did read right... I will not have a heart break in 2011!! I will enjoy life, and be happy... There will be no time for tears and doubt!! 2010 was a shit year in the love department, so in 2011 I will test my Independence!! So, from the 01/01/2010 my heart will be turned into stone...

2. I WILL LEARN HOW TO COOK!
I am not a domestic lady... I always made excuses when my mother wanted me to cook, so today my knowledge in the kitchen is quite restricted!! But now being a mother, I have to learn how to master the art of cooking!! So 2011, I will purchase a fancy cook book and start cooking!!

3. I WILL BE A SOCIAL BUTTERFLY!
I have turned down way to many invites in the past... 2011 will be full of get togethers, parties and functions!! I will attend all invites I recieve, except if the people are weird!! Then I will have to think of a good excuse!!

4. I WILL STUDY!
I had huge dreams when I was a child... But then I fell pregnant, and had to put my dreams on hold for a few years!! But now Tiaan is 4 years old, and I have awesome family and friends who support me... So I will study futher in 2011, and reach my goals, that I had set all those years ago!!

5. I WILL OVERCOME ANY OBSTACLES THAT 2011 HOLDS!
I'm stronger and wiser... I will not doubt my faith and believes!! No matter what 2011 holds for me... I will not go down without a fight!! I will live life to the fullest..!!

So those are the 5 resolutions I have set for 2011... I think 2011 is going to be a wonderful year, filled with joy, hope and a lot of blessings!!

XoXo

Survived!!

Yes readers I did survive my two day stay in Secunda... I was not eaten by a cow, or mugged by someone!!
I had fun, thanks to the awesome people I have in my life!!

Thursday morning Rudi and I were supposed to leave at 6am... But I only woke up at 6:30am, so we were delayed a bit... But by 7:30am we were on the road, which by the way was very wet... It had been raining a little bit to much!!

But by 10am we had reached Secunda, I had to wait for my dad to fetch me... And I hate waiting, but my dad's car had decided to break on the day he had to collect me... But not to worry, my dad organized a lift and we were on our way to the farm!!

Takuza, is the name of the farm... Believe me, it is Takuza there!! Takuza is where I spent 4 years of my teenage life... Those 4 years were heartbreaking!!
Takuza is also the home of my first love, a man I had fallen head over heels with!! But I could never really tell him how I felt... Why I don't know, but I always kept it for myself.!

But he and I had good times, and the more we had, the harder I fell... And still today I love him!! And NO, I still have not confessed my love!! He'll be my little secret forever...

But enough about the soppy stuff.... Tiaan was really excited about the farm, he enjoyed all the animals... Even wanted to take some home!! Like a small lamb, my mother had found in the field!! It was great seeing my parents again... When you haven't seen them for so long, you aprreciate a few hours in their company!!

The view from Takuza!! Not to bad, if you come from Jo'burg where everything is just buildings...

Tiaan explaining something random about the fish in the dam... The dam where my first love and I swam a few summers ago... Good memories!!

We went to meet my best friend's boyfriend at the dam, where they were fishing... Tiaan was excited, but I on the other had.... Will not even comment!!

Tiaan was in his own little world at the dam... I would love to know what he was thinking in this photo?!

Secunda, I do not hate you anymore... I heart you!! But not a lot, only enough to keep my memories happy!!

Thanks too all my friends and family... I had a good time!!

Hope to see you soon... Not too soon though, maybe after the new year or something!! Ha-Ha

XoXo



Big City Girl going Home...

I know I might not yet be the big city girl, but I already feel that I will never be able to live in the small town again... NEVER!!

But I haven't seen my parents for over a month, and now that we moving over Christmas I won't be able to see them then either...

So I'm going home for 2 days... Back to the small town where I spent 4 years of my life!! SECUNDA...
And when I say small, I mean small... I think the only attraction they have is SASOL...

Still, Secunda has great and sad memories... And they say you can always go back to your roots, to determine who you are today!!!
I'm really excited to see my mum and dad, but also the awesome friends I have there..!!

Each one, made a memory in my heart...

So, if I don't blog after 3 days... Please know, that I did not survive Secunda... Or I am recovering from a very big hangover...

Later!!

XoXo

Love, Courage and Truth.

LOVE, COURAGE, TRUTH.. don't be afraid to LOVE yourself, have the COURAGE to live your life your way, and never be afraid to speak the TRUTH.

LOVE: What is LOVE? Love is not a necessity, but it is life's greatest gift and luxury. It is to care, to be kind and patient. It is considered as perfect love when a person doesn't expect anything else but love.

But I don't see it that way... To me LOVE is being able to accept yourself first, how can you LOVE another if you can't LOVE yourself?! I was never really able to fully accept myself, till I had my son... He proved to me no matter what mistakes I had made, or who I had been in my past... He loved me!! That means a lot, being able to wake up each morning, knowing that no matter what anybody else says... I'm Perfect!! I LOVE who I am today, yes I have my flaws... But who doesn't?!

COURAGE: What is COURAGE? Have the COURAGE of one's convictions, to act in accordance with one's beliefs, expectations in spite of criticism.

So very true... Live life to your expectations, nobody elses!! Who's life is it anyway?! Yes, when you do make a choice think of others, but don't let your life revolve around them... The earth revolves around the sun, that's the only revolving happening here!! I will live my life the way I see best!! If I make mistakes once in awhile, so what?! We all do..!!

TRUTH: What is TRUTH? The true or actual state of a matter.

I think TRUTH is a word most people don't want to hear... But I think knowing the TRUTH is a lot better than believing a lie!! I did that for way too long... In the end the pain is a lot more harder than to endure the pain of TRUTH.

So those three words made a impact on my life today...

XoXo

Big Move.!

I am super excited! After a long wait, we are finally moving into our new house this month...

I'm dreading the packing and unpacking, but just the idea of finally being able to move into the mansion is enough to get me through all those boxes!!

Tiaan will be having his own room for the first time... Wimpie bought him a *bunk bed*, and he has been nagging about it forever now!! Tiaan and Wimpie have been having debats about how they would like to decorate the room... Tiaan ( 4 yrs old ) is determined to have a Ben 10 bedroom, and Wimpie ( will not age him, but a lot older than Tiaan ) is determined it will be a Car bedroom. So Rudi and I have decided to keep ourselves out this argument for now... Could get messy!!

I of course would like a *PINK* bedroom... Yet, everybody in the house (3 men) are against my choice!! Sucks, but I'll win... I know I will!!

Wimpie is already designing the garden and pool... Farm yard for Tiaan and a Play Pen!! I must say my son is spoilt rotten!!

Rudi is excited for the unpacking (WTF?) he says you always discover things you thought you didn't have anymore... Still not my idea of fun!!

The 20th is around the corner, so I will keep you updated how it went...

XoXo

Goals & Dreams

I woke up this morning feeling a bit down... NOT LONELY!! I feel as if my emotions are getting the best of me...

But then I read this in my Day Planner - "Obstacles are those frightful things you see when you take your eyes off you goal!"

That quote is so true...

Obstacles only make us stonger and prepare us for what the future holds!! Most obstacles are imaginary, the rest are only temporary!

It's never the end of the road, only the begining to something new!!

Live life, stop stressing about tomorrow... If you can't do it today, you always have the next!!

XoXo

Lonely...

I woke up this morning with a slight hangover, after the Sansui Summer Cup yesterday... All I can say is AWESOME!!

But this blog isn't close about that...

This morning I was busy on my Blackberry tweeting, where this guy comes up to me and asks me if I'm lonely?? Huh?? WTF dude!!

After that question I was intrigued why he thought I was lonely... I bold and underline lonely because I still don't exactly understand that statement...
Please feel free and comment and define this statement!

Mr. @ss - " You are not famous or anything, yet you have all the social sites! "

Me - " You don't need fame to have those social sites. "

Mr. @ss - " If you had a man in you life, you wouldn't need all those sites! "

Me - " F*#k off... "

If he was trying a pick up line, it sucked!! But it got me thinking...

Yes I do have a Facebook and Twitter page, but it is a way to stay connected to friends and family...
I will admit I don't have a lot of friends, but when I was with my son's father, I was never allowed to have that... So for 5 years I've been cut off from the world, but I'm trying to fix that!!

I am not a lonely b*tch... I just prefer to be independent for once in my life...

Well, Good Night Everybody...

This LONELY LADY is going to bed...

I have a feeling... Monday is going to be good!!

XoXo

Moving On!

A few months ago I would never have imagined that I am where I am today...
I would probably thought that it is impossible to move on after a heart break.!!
WRONG. You can move on, it only takes time and patience!! Also a plus point if you have great family and friends that support you... Life doesn't come to a end when your heart breaks, it's just a new beginning!!

My New Beginning is even better than I thought... I'm happy, I'm Blessed but most of all I'm loved!!
There is nothing more I could ask for!! I have great people in my life that motivate me to do things, that help me to accomplish all my dreams... I have a son, that loves me with all my faults and mistakes. Best of all, these people don't judge me!!

Since I was young, primary school years I had the fear of being judged... I always wanted to be good enough and impress people!!! But I had to learn a hard lesson... Kids are cruel, and in the small town I grew up they were worse!!

Today, I am who I am... If people don't like that, well their problem.! But I will admit, I still do have the fear of being judged. But now that I'm single and happy, I'm slowly overcoming that fear!!
My life has changed a lot in the past 5 months, more than I can describe!! AND NOTHING WILL CHANGE WHAT I'M FEELING NOW....

XoXo

Choices...

I think many of us spend our lives thinking our choices led us to where we are today... I know I'm one of those people!!
I was very young when I fell pregnant, 17 years old end of Standard 9... That's when my routine life began!!
I had to change in a matter of 9 months, had to adapt my life, but the most important, I had to Grow-Up!!

Being a mother at 18 wasn't easy, I had to finish Matric, find a job all those things that come with children.
But I survived, and I never let go of my dreams!! I was in a 5 year relationship wit my son's father, and in those 5 years I was molded into the person I am today.

Those 5 years where long hard learned years, something I would never repeat. Don't get me wrong, there were good times and bad times... And all those moments helped me to realize what I was doing wrong in life!!
I've made a few bad choices, believe me a few... But those choices have never kept me back in life...

I'm not saying I am where I want to be in my life right now, but I'm happy... I still have a lot of dreams I want to reach!! But never will I look back at my past and say WHY??? I've asked that question so many times, even though I already know the answer. My choices!!!

Don't let your today, predict your tomorrow....

XoXo

Hey, it's OK...

I was reading the Glamour Magazine when I got to page 27, I decided I'd leave a comment after each point they had written. So here goes, let me know what you think:

Hey, it's OK...

• To call your mother, oh around three or four times per recipe. Yeah, so some of us mature ladies can't cook, so what nothing to be ashamed of. We are good at something though!

• To be kind of over the vampire thing, but not at all over the R-Patz thing. Well I've watched all the movies and this guy still lets my heart skip a beat!

• To not act fun and personable until two cups of coffee. Not one. Not one and a half. Exactly Two. I love coffee, and I agree with that statement. After a night of insomnia I sometimes need more than two!

• To be the Big Loser who always cries at the fireworks. Although I have never had that kind of moment, I do hope that they are tears of joy!!

• To still want Jennifer Aniston's hair. Call me dumb, but what is so great about her hair?

• To hate people who post soppy love updates on Facebook, but get irritated when your boyfriend doesn't. I do agree in some ways, but let the lovebirds enjoy their moments!

• To share a pillow, soap, maybe even a summer cold with him, but never ever your password. Well they never share theirs with us! 

• To be tempted to leave the picture of the hot model in your new photo frame. And casually comment, "Oh, that's Pablo..." when friends come over. Some ladies are just desperate! 

• To steal toys from children if they go with your outfit. I can't seem to imagine myself walking around with a Doll just because it goes with my outfit, but that's just me!

• To get more carried away by dress-up parties than your five-year-old nephew. A lady needs to look her best all the time, thats why we do our best even at dress-up parties!

• To only empty your wallet of old receipts when you can no longer close it. I've seen those wallets, my boss tends to do that.

• To calm your Bikini Body worries by eating a Bar of Chocolate. We ladies need those bars once in a while, like men need a beer or two.

• TO WATCH THE PREQUEL, THE SEQUEL AND THE SEQUEL TO THE SEQUEL. Do you really get movie addicts like that???

• To not sign up for Zumba classes at your gym. Exercise is hard enough without trying to stay in beat. Believe me I've tried Zumba, and it's not as easy as it looks.

• To lie about why only five muffins and four biscuits came out the oven. ( I so did not eat the dough ) I seem to find raw dough disgusting, but hey I'm not normal.

Well that is it... I haven't blogged for a while, but I shall try and do it daily from now on!! 

I live a busy life, but this blog helps to express my feelings...

Till my next Blog... 

XoXo

Chapter 1: Donna

My day started quite well today, I woke up knowing that I was Blessed with many great things in my life!

I was alive, I had my healthy son next to me, I had two great men in my life ( Boss 1 - Boss 2 ).

Overall I'm just happy! Which I never thought I could be...

Happiness to each of us is different.

To me being happy means, to be able to wake up each morning...

I used to count all the negative things in my life, I forgot about all the good!!!

Or I didn't forget, I just didn't want to see it.

When I grew up, life was hard! My parents gave me what they could...

And I always thought it was their fault for the way I chose to live my life!

But I was wrong, I made the choices in my life, whether they were bad or good...

Never blame your childhood for your mistakes...

All I want in life is to be happy!

To wake up each day knowing I was going to live it to the fullest...

But with happiness, comes sadness...

Everyday is filled with different emotions, it is your choice how you handle them!

Who is Donna?

Nobody knows, not even I do...

I'm still figuring that out!

And I think I will be for the rest of my life...

Well this is it for now...

Till next time

XoXo

 

My New Start!!!

I have never thought of myself as talented, but they say you can always start somewhere!

All I ever wanted was to be happy, to live my life to the fullest...

But along my road of life, I've had a few pot holes and way more road works than anybody can handle!

But I'm still alive and kicking... And I'm a strong independent mother after it all!!!

I've made a lot of mistakes in my life these past few years...

I'm not proud of them, but they have made me a better person today!

Well today I've decided, I'm going to share my Road Trip of Life with You...

All my ups and down, my in's and out's!!!

Let me start by telling you who I am....

My name is Donna-Ann Nordier, I was born on 10 August 1988.

I was born in Scottbrugh, Kwazulu-Natal!


I found out at the age of 10 that i was adopted.
So I'm blessed with a large loving family.
My childhood wasn't good, but it wasn't bad either!
I am the person I am today because of the way I grew up, and the choices I made in Life!


I have a Beautiful 4 year old son Tiaan.
He is my life, without him I would be nothing!
He keeps me going each day, makes me smile sometimes even shed some tears!
He was my little gift at the age of 17, I'm not proud of the age I had him, but I would never regret having him.


Today I want to start a day to day blog about my life...
Not to brag or to seek attention, but to share my mistakes and lessons in life with you!


I'm no writer, so I might even bore you at times!
But give me a break here, I'm trying!


Each day I will write a chapter of my life, only the details I think fit to share with you will be posted though!
So please bare with me, even let me know what you think...


Today was my introduction to you...


Our Road Trip will begin tomorrow! Until then...


XoXo